The Importance Of Taking Control Of Your Life

Attitude is a small thing that can make a big difference. 

The way we approach our personal problems is determined by whether we have an internal or external locus of control. 

An internal locus of control is when we believe that the outcomes of our life are a result of our actions and abilities. This means you believe you have control over most things that happen to you.

On the other hand, an external locus of control is when we believe the outcomes of our life are a result of external factors outside of our control. Someone with an external locus of control is more likely to accept their fate, even if they disagree with it. 

The book The Encyclopedia of Positive Psychology explains that people with an internal locus tend to be better off because of their assertive approach to their personal issues. It enables us to feel in control of our destiny.

Throughout my life, I’ve struggled with feelings of isolation that were detrimental to my mental health. When I isolated myself, I wondered why no one wanted to reach out to me and why everyone had a social life and support network and I didn’t. 

I felt like a victim affected by external factors outside of my control. 

Last year’s lockdown gave me an opportunity to reevaluate my perspective. Through introspection, I realized that if I wanted to end my isolation I had to stop waiting for things to happen. Instead, I had to put in the effort myself. 

I decided to reach out to build my support and social network. Eventually, I managed to integrate and tackle that abrasive sensation of solitude. 

The whole process illustrated the importance of being active rather than passive. If we wait for change to happen without our input, we will be miserable waiting in ambiguity. 

My desire to be active is what motivated me to become involved at the College and seize every opportunity. If I want to be the best version of myself then I have to fight for it. 

Of course, we are not in control of everything that happens to us. It’s important to acknowledge those things outside of our control. Doing so enables us to create realistic expectations of what we can and can’t do. 

However, while we may not control our environment or life circumstances, we can control our responses. When we realize this, we open the door of opportunity for personal growth and happiness. 

Don’t let a victim mentality keep you stuck.